(I’d like to forewarn, of my use of the word ‘men.’ I use it in a general all-encompassing sense in this post, however I don’t really mean ALL men, rather to the scum presented below, and those who hold women back from where they need to be in 2017).
Frankly, I’m a little appalled at myself.
This time last year, I wrote a gratitude piece on International Women’s Day. I wrote things like
“As women, we need to know our worth and value it, and not continually lay blame on the man, or complain that we are not given fair treatment because of him.“
“It’s due to this that we should place further awareness of this important day, in order for those other parts of the world, those ‘cavemen,’ and likewise any unintentionally or not, abiding cavewomen, to catch up, and smell the coffee roasting from the beans that we bought ourselves.”
To read it in its full context you should probably click here. But basically I was saying that women are sometimes equally to blame as men are for their unfair treatment, because of the way they expect to be treated – they don’t realise their worth, therefore, men will NOT realise their worth.
Excuse me as I bitch-slap myself.
Lucky for me, I am a keen and curious soul, and I LOVE to listen to other people’s points of view. And call it fate, call it opportunity, call it divine intervention trying to tell me something, grabbing hold of me by the wrists and shaking me and yelling “Listen! You have to take this in!”… but lately, I’ve been getting really mad, as I get exposed to a whole bevy of stories and circumstances where women are treated awfully unequally.
Like a pile of shit.
So I’m sorry to say, but on this International Women’s Day, we still have an awful long way to go.
Women are still being treated like sex slaves. Domestic violence leads to death for one woman a week. One woman a week. Women are raped, ALL around the world – Eastern and Western cultures do not discriminate. Sexual assault is one of the most undetected crimes, with many women fearing coming forward due to the traumatic process of needing evidence, and having to be strewn through the courts with examination after examination. Offenders get a slap on the wrist, before moving on with their lives, with the victims left to pick up the shattered pieces of their lives, and try to make some sense of it all – only there is NO sense in it all. Side effects of the ordeal are long-term, psychological, physical and affect the entire support network IF there is one, not just the sole victim.
Women are still being paid much less than the opposite sex. Women are underpaid compared to their counterparts, and even though they are often given the advice to be ‘more confident,’ ‘more assertive,’ (like men), it is a double-edged sword, as displaying these career-driven characteristics place them in the unwomanly field – they are not acting in accordance with their sex, and that is a deviation.
What I have come to detest particularly is the victim-blaming: always on behalf of the woman.
The woman sends a naked pic of herself to her boyfriend, and it is HER fault when he later posts it when they break-up.
The woman gets side-lined for a promotion, and it is HER fault, because she was too assertive – too much of a bitch.
The woman gets raped, but it is HER fault, because she was wearing a mini skirt.
The woman gets assaulted, but it’s HER fault yet again, because she was drunk, and really she was asking for it.
Why are the women, ALWAYS to blame? Why is it their fault that men can’t act accordingly? Why is it their responsibility to ensure they will be respected and treated equal, like men are: that is, not discriminated against or assaulted in any way.
How about the MAN is held accountable? I mean, he DID upload that naked pic of her online.
He didn’t promote his female employee, because he was threatened by her assertiveness and drive.
He raped her, because her mini skirt ‘provoked’ him.
He assaulted her, because she didn’t know better, and wouldn’t remember it in the morning anyway.
HOW ARE THESE THINGS OKAY?
In September 2016, Stanford Uni student Brock Turner, walked out of jail after only serving 3 months of jail, where he could have received a maximum of 14 years. It was a severe breach of court justice, and the male judge is now removed from residing over any criminal cases. Brock was found guilty in March on counts of intent to commit rape of an unconscious person, and penetration of an intoxicated and unconscious person.
His father showed the world why his son turned out to be such a weak imbecile and cowardly piece of filth, when he infamously asked for a lenient sentence for his son in a letter, saying a lengthy sentence was a steep price to pay for 20 minutes of action.
20 minutes of action.
20 minutes of action.
Really. 20 minutes of action. Your son assaulted a woman who was both intoxicated and unconscious. It was sexual assault. Choosing ‘lighter’ words make you sound like the type of scum that needs to be removed from this earth, rather than make anyone submit to your case.
If you want to get really angry, you can read the victim’s full statement that went viral last year, here.
Closer to home, and recently I read the explicitly disturbing story of Tara Brown, who was savagely beaten to death by her ex-partner in 2015. Lionel Patea had dropped off their daughter at school, before chasing her down in his car, running her off the road, and then picking up a hydrant and bashing her repeatedly while she was trapped in the car.
She died due to the extreme injuries she had sustained later in hospital.
And you know what he wrote in a letter to her family? He questioned how a tragedy such as this could have happened.
He had beaten her to death, and yet, he did not understand how he did it. As if it wasn’t his fault. Excusing himself from blame.
These examples are primary ones in the issue of women’s equality, however they are only the beginning of the tip of the cold and stark iceberg that is buried deep beyond sight. The discrimination, the fear, the uncertainty that you are born with when you are born a woman… sure, we can vote. Sure, we can work. Sure, we are treated equally in some workplaces, to some degree.
But we are living in 2017 people. Repeat. 2017.
This is happening to a woman, RIGHT NOW.
It doesn’t feel very forward-thinking and living to me.
Sure, I appreciate the women in my life on this day of ‘Women.’ And sure, I am grateful for their positive role in my life, and how they still to this day continue to shape me with their strength, their courage, their fragility, and their never-say-die attitude.
But I don’t have my head in the sand anymore. I am looking at the bigger picture, rather than just my small circle. I don’t have all the answers, and I don’t know how one person can even make a difference.
But together, as women and men respectfully unite, WE CAN.
Education must start in the home. Children must be taught to treat all as equals. Schools must follow suit, and then there must be legislation against the deviants who think themselves above the law and system, and take it upon themselves to ‘show a woman whose boss.’
WE need to show the deviants whose boss.
They are simple sentences, but they are big, HUGE, ideas. They require a lot of reform.
So on this day, the 8th of March, I celebrate one thing in particular:
The women who make things happen, and make positive changes for the better of all future women EVERYWHERE.
Because it is that woman that I also, want to be.