It first started as a few funny online photos and memes.
‘This is how my 2016 has been,’ – a man getting run over by a getaway trolley,
and then there was the one that showed Buffy sucking a lollypop that said ‘me at the beginning of 2016,’ next to an image of her post – demon fighting with hair dishevelled and looking insanely disrupted, with the caption ‘me at the end of 2016.’
I got a bit mad there. Not because they used Buffy – that was cool. I was shitty that people were treating the past year as if it was an other-worldly force, and they were the slayer, and they had battled demons from an open hellmouth and almost, just survived to tell the tale.
Let’s be honest. I’m sure there are people who have battled their figurative demons in 2016. In terms of world percentages, they are probably a small portion compared to those who bitch and whinge and moan that it was a bad year, when all that really happened was that guy dumped them, and they found out the other guy they’d been going after was actually gay.
Or that guy lost out his promotion to that arrogant arse-sucking snivelling tie-wearing suit, or he had to move back in with his parents, or he had to eat rice and tuna for one month of the year to make ends meet.
I’m sure, shit has happened to EVERYONE this past year. Because guess what? Life goes UP…
…And life goes DOWN.
And to think that it can go in any other direction than those, or that it will continue to stay up, and will never get dark, is just not very conducive or responsible, mature or wise, to anyone’s way of living.
What I’m getting at is this: There are too many people out there focusing on the bad that happened in the last year, when guess what? Bad things happen EVERY YEAR.
They can happen every month.
They can happen every week.
They can happen every day.
And they can happen every moment.
Sometimes luck is involved, and you may not come across a bad incident, scenario or situation for quite a while…
And at other times, your attitude determines everything.
Backtrack a bit. Your attitude ALWAYS determines everything.
Its not to say that horrible, terrible, life and death and sickly things happen all the time. They do. They really truly do, and that is scary stuff. One can be completely forgiven for breaking down and curling into a ball when it actually does. And you can call out 2016 for being the worst year of your life, and shout and scream at it until the clock strikes midnight at 2017.
But, having a bad month?
Your child shitting you up the wall?
Depressed because you can’t find a house?
Oh, you drive too far to work?
What’s that, the broccoli from the supermarket is smelly?
It’s been cold the first 3 weeks of summer?
Oh damn, your morning coffee just got burnt.
And what about not having your heating working in the coldest part of the year?
Poor, poor you.
I’ve used many examples above of things that Hubbie and I have expressly been subject to over the last few months. And although many of these things were annoyances, and setbacks, through the hardship and whinging, we still got up, we still moved on, we still put our chins up, and learnt to look at and focus on the things that were really good in our lives.
And they were really good.
You have to know the difference between life-changing, or plot twist. One of my favourite quotes is the below one, as it really puts things in perspective:
Shit happens every year guys. It happens all the time. Think of that next time they stuff up your order at the posh restaurant, or your friend backstabs you to the girl-group.
Go to a different restaurant next time.
Tell that friend to go jump.
Just MOVE ON.
Because this is YOUR life, and you should live it fully, focusing on what’s best, fantastic, and joyful around you… and if you do, your good fortune, favourable days and happy circumstances, will genuinely multiply.
And if you don’t… well then every one of your days, weeks, months and years on earth, will be just… bleh.